Weight Loss Leads To Romance

More than once I have seen how weight loss leads to romance. When someone is ready to lose weight, then other goals start to be uncovered that were stifled along with the extra pounds. When the blocks to weight loss are released, so are the blocks to achieving other goals. It’s fun to witness this!

It clearly happened with one of my weight loss clients. She had been divorced for nine years and had never dated since her divorce. The sting of her marriage left her afraid to try a relationship again.At some point in our work, she realized that the extra weight was forming a protective layer that was keeping her ‘safe’. In addition, the extra weight was unconsciously giving her a buffer from her very stressful job.

As she continued to lose weight and release emotions that were trapped in her body and mind, things in her life began to shift. First, she lost her job. As hard as she worked and as much responsibility as she had, she was let go and in a rather abrupt, unappreciative way.

It turned out to be a blessing in disguise, as she now had time to regroup and spend more time on self-care. She was still interested in a relationship and now had time and energy to be in one. The dilemma was how to go about meeting someone?

The universe took care of that for her, now that she was ready. Her childhood sweetheart came back into her life, out of the blue. They didn’t even live in the same city anymore, but he tracked her down and called her.

It seemed like they picked up where they left off. They felt comfortable and in tune with each other from Day One, and slowly got re-involved. Soon she moved back to her home town to be with him, bringing her back into close contact with family and old friends. Then she got a job which had much saner hours than the previous job. Life was good. After some months they got engaged, and are now married.

You might wonder how all of this fell into place. Well, she opened up to releasing the old, and that made room for the new. Initially she was out of her comfort zone, but slowly she adjusted to the changes with more and more confidence. Her goals were clearly there in her mind, and now they were able to manifest.

I have seen this happen often when people lose weight, because it’s not about the food. It’s about commitment to self-discovery and self-transformation, and stepping into the unknown where you don’t know what will happen. It exemplifies the old adage, “If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you always got.”

Did she lose the rest of the weight she had set out to lose? I honestly don’t know, because once her life became so fulfilling, weight loss was no longer her main focus. So technically I didn’t totally succeed in helping her with that, but I was very happy to help facilitate such rich changes in her life.

Some other side benefits that I have observed in weight loss clients include: